Bisola Aiyeola Opens Up on Why She Stopped Taking Sides in Other People’s Feuds
Nigerian actress and former reality TV star Bisola Aiyeola has revealed why she no longer gets involved in conflicts that do not directly concern her, admitting that excessive loyalty once led her into unnecessary disputes.
The actress made the revelation during a recent episode of the Dear Ife podcast, where she reflected on lessons she has learned about friendship, loyalty, and personal boundaries.
Bisola Says She Used to “Inherit” Other People’s Fights
Speaking candidly on the podcast, Bisola explained that there was a time when she would automatically take the side of her friends, loved ones, and even colleagues whenever they had disagreements with someone else.
According to her, she often defended people close to her without first listening to the other side of the story. Looking back, she believes that approach was misguided.
She admitted that her loyalty sometimes pushed her into conflicts that had nothing to do with her personally.
“I have been in a situation where I have taken fights that are not mine. I do inherit my friends’ beef to an extent. I have done that before. Not just for people who are my best friends but also for acquaintances and colleagues. I did it even without hearing from the other person.”
A Painful Experience Changed Her Perspective
Bisola said one particular experience completely changed the way she views taking sides in other people’s disagreements.
She recalled getting deeply involved in defending someone, only for the two people involved to eventually reconcile, leaving her as the only person still carrying the conflict.
That experience taught her the importance of staying neutral in situations that do not directly involve her.
“I have also been in a situation where I inherited someone’s fight and then they eventually settled and I became the outsider. So, I told myself it’s not everybody’s fight and beef that I would inherit.”
Since then, the actress says she has become more careful about involving herself in disputes between friends, colleagues, or acquaintances.
Why Dating a Friend’s Ex Is Different for Bisola
While Bisola insists she does not expect her friends to automatically adopt her personal conflicts, she admitted there are certain boundaries she believes close friends should never cross.
She explained that she would not remain friends with someone who chooses to build a close relationship with her former fiancé or romantic partner.
According to the actress, loyalty in friendships still matters, especially when it comes to past relationships.
“I don’t expect people to inherit my beef but if I have an ex-fiancé and my best friend decides to bond with him, we are not friends. I have cut ties with men who were dating and quarrelling with my best friends.”
Bisola Reflects on Loyalty and Personal Boundaries
Bisola’s comments highlight the balance between being supportive of loved ones and maintaining healthy personal boundaries.
Her experience serves as a reminder that getting involved in disputes without knowing the full story can sometimes create unnecessary tension, especially when the people directly involved eventually resolve their differences.
Although she still values loyalty, the actress says she now believes every disagreement should be handled by the people involved, rather than automatically becoming everyone else’s battle.
